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LariLee's Hutch - Finally...


Dec. 10th, 2012 04:26 am Finally...

After fighting foot infections and losing my big toe, I finally lost the left leg. I am trying to adjust to life as an amputee, but it has only been two weeks. I was do.ing well until I got overconfident and fell Friday. Worst part of all is that I can't take care of Mom, so she is in a nursing home. I am trying to look to the positive which means. I'll have time to do things I like... like writing.

Maybe I've acted too well in front of the extended family... no flowers or cards or kudos... in fact, they are upset I cannot wash my mother's clothes (much less my own) but as I explained, the washer and dryer are in the basement

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Current Location: wheelchair in Louisville
Current Mood: tired and down
Current Music: The Cosby Show on TV

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From:sbrande
Date:December 10th, 2012 09:29 am (UTC)
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How selfish of them! Some people don't have the right to breathe the same air as us.

How are you doing babe? That is you though, always looking on the brighter side of life.

Loves you, Sonia :)
From:larilee
Date:December 12th, 2012 09:40 am (UTC)
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Well, the decision of whether or not to put Mom in a nursing home was taken from me... I didn't have to do it, so that was a relief. I really didn't want to do it, but Mom's care was getting to be too much for one person - a sick one at that.

I decided I could beat myself up for failing her or I could focus on getting well. I chose me-for once. :-D
From:sbrande
Date:December 12th, 2012 10:57 am (UTC)
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As you should baby.

Loves you, Sonia :)
From:eoforyth
Date:December 10th, 2012 10:26 am (UTC)
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*hugs*

Do you know how many bad taste comments I found myself typing just now?

I shall rein myself in and simply comment that all the responsible, empathic and caring qualities seem to have skipped your family and ended up in you - take the time to look after yourself for a change, and ignore their whining.

Is there someone who you can get to come and at least sort out your washing for you? Hoping for the best.
From:larilee
Date:December 12th, 2012 09:56 am (UTC)
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Any bad comments you could make were probably already made... by me! :-) But then I reminded myself that my aunt is 77... and my best friend keeps me in cigarettes and Diet Pepsi and David's only best friend is an attorney for the State and he's really helping in so many ways. So I shouldn't complain, but I really wish the family would acknowledge how much I'm doing and how well I'm doing instead of expecting more from me. I think that's what really hurts.
From:mypetconcubine
Date:December 10th, 2012 01:36 pm (UTC)
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I am sorry your family is being so selfish.

I am happy you are doing better and you are looking on the bright side of life.
From:larilee
Date:December 12th, 2012 10:00 am (UTC)
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I can hear Month Python singing now. :-)

I just decided I could continue beating myself up as usual or try really hard to find the good in life. One will make me sicker and one helps me heal. I putting me first for a change.
From:logospilgrim
Date:December 10th, 2012 03:34 pm (UTC)
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*covers you with flowers and wraps you in a very tender robed embrace* ♥
From:larilee
Date:December 12th, 2012 10:01 am (UTC)
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Thank you! It means a lot to me.
From:hypnobarb1
Date:December 10th, 2012 04:20 pm (UTC)
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Laralee, that is so common for families to just take the caregiver for granted. They cannot be bothered and it is just so inconvenient when the person who has had the responsibility dumped on them can't continue with business as usual.

I am hoping for your recovery and regaining your mobility. When the time comes that you get your prosthetic, there are family members who deserved to get whacked with it.
From:larilee
Date:December 12th, 2012 10:06 am (UTC)
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I love the image of me whacking people with my fake leg. :-) It's almost as good as tripping people with my fake leg. David offered me a parrot and an eye patch to go with my peg leg.
From:mundungus42
Date:December 10th, 2012 04:34 pm (UTC)
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*enormous hugs* Please add me to the list of people who want to thwack your extended family upside the head for their selfish response to the situation. You have given so much for so long, and the nicest thing I can possibly call people who would begrudge you help at this time is "ungracious." I can come up with some far more expressive words. As you are an excellent writer whose work has always ranked among my favorites, I'm sure you can, too.

I hope you're able to re-open the writing sluices, because they can be so healing. I lost a friend this summer, and I poured all that into the stories I was working on at the time. *hugs you tightly*

From:larilee
Date:December 12th, 2012 10:10 am (UTC)
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I am so sorry for your loss. (((Hugs)))

I've got so many stories running in my head... not only finishing stories but a couple of new ones... including an erotica featuring a woman being seduced by a demon. Very hot. I'm excited about it.
From:apisa_b
Date:December 10th, 2012 08:25 pm (UTC)
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Goodness ... I'm speechless.
From:larilee
Date:December 12th, 2012 10:13 am (UTC)
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I'm really okay. I've got great mobility except for one fall. And good friends, both in real life and in my cyber-life.
From:bonsaibetz
Date:December 10th, 2012 08:31 pm (UTC)
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I'm so sorry to hear about your health problems and the loss of your leg. At least you're still alive. My brother went into the hospital last July (three weeks after my father's funeral) with a burst appendix. He's lucky he's still alive. As are you. So let's count our blessings, as meager as those blessings may seem right now.

I'm sorry to hear your mother is in a home now and you're stuck in a house with more than one level.

Perhaps you can get extended family to help out a bit. Barter. They come help you a bit and in return you provide some light intellectual duties such as resume writing and proofing - should you have extended family members looking for work.
From:larilee
Date:December 12th, 2012 10:27 am (UTC)
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Not really a lot of extended family left. My aunt is 77 and in poor health and her husband is 80 and has never liked me (I'm a smart ass and he's as an ass :-D) And my one cousin (Drunk!Cousin) won't drive out "so far" (about nine miles) .

But we have good friends (both in real and cyber), a good neighbor and a cleaning woman now.

Thank you for your gifts! You really brightened my day!
From:morethansirius
Date:December 11th, 2012 02:54 am (UTC)
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Oh my goodness! I'm so very sorry to hear about your health problems, but so grateful you are still here! Not overly surprised to hear about the extended family. Caretakers are taken for granted. You couldn't possibly actually need someone to help take care of you, now could you?!?!

~Hufflehugs.~
From:larilee
Date:December 12th, 2012 10:29 am (UTC)
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So true! I think I'm going to be okay though. And I can write again which saves my sanity.
From:libco
Date:December 13th, 2012 08:21 am (UTC)
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Honey I had no idea you were going through this. I'm sorry this happened but glad you're okay. I have no idea what to say. Glad you're making it through.
From:larilee
Date:December 14th, 2012 09:16 pm (UTC)
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Thank you so much so for responding! The well wishes I receive make me feel better!